Quantum Love

In quantum entanglement, two entangled particles are linked to each other: what happens to one will directly and instantly influence the other, even though they are light-years apart.

In the 1960s, quantum theorist John Bell in his Bell's Theoorum argues that two particles in a quantum state are always co-dependent on each other, no matter the distance. It means that when one entangled particle is observed in properties such as spin (particles either spin up or down), the other particle will always give the opposite direction as the one observed, even if they are light-years apart. Albert Einstein disputed the theory and called it "spooky action at a distance". However, years later, it is proven in numerous experiments that Bell is correct: quantum entanglement exists.

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In quantum theory, two entangled particles are always in sync with each other, no matter which one we observe or how far away they are apart. What it means is that they are connected on a level that is beyond light could travel. Scientists have also confirmed in various experiments that the randomness of the spin direction of the particles does not contain hidden information, nor pre-written assumptions of spin up or down. This is an interesting phenomenon that scientists are yet to discover the reason behind. How does this help us understand more about the essence of love?

The essence of love is filled with perfection. Perfection not in the sense of having a perfect partner that fulfil all your wishes, but rather, a sense of understanding his strengths and flaws, and accept them totally as what it is. You enjoy the beauty of a person because he is both perfect and imperfect. There will be no neurosis from your side, trying to nag or fix your partner. You and your guy are like ying and yang, perfectly in sync with each other. Like the entangled particles that transcends through distance and time (they are in sync no matter how far they are or when you observe it), true love exists with harmony and peacefulness that drives the relationship to another level.

This is to say I love him exactly because of his flaws. Because of his flaws you are able to see how life is made of both ups and downs. In fact, his flaws make him more perfect. Perfection, as I said, is nothing about having the best physique, or warmest personality. It is about admiring and encouraging his strengths, while inspiring him to work through his flaws. In his own will and time. Like if you encounter a guy who has bad temper, do you immediately judge from your perspective that he is a violent, aggressive and non-caring person? What if he is agitated because he was trying to protect you?

And sometimes you need to ask yourself why you see his flaws as flaws. Does this have anything to do with your own problems? For example, a lot of women would complain that their guys are not loving enough, or not texting enough. It is all about unrealistic expectations. If he has always been this way, why do you need him to fill your void of longing for love? An attractive woman is someone who is already full inside, any guy will only add to her happiness. She is happy anyway, with or without the guy. So she does not need to change a guy because it is who he is. You either accept it, or stay away from him. And if you understand this, you will realize that true love is always in sync with one another.

The essence of love displays the polarity and dynamics in a relationship. Like the spin direction of the particles, they are always in opposite of +1 and -1. The opposite is merely describing a man as masculine and a woman as feminine. In fact, if you look into the entangled particles, they are in random +1 or -1 situation. The probability of spinning up or down is 50-50. However, if one is observed as +1, the other is always -1. And there is no written presumption of how one particle should look like.

The implication to that is no matter your gender and interaction in the relationship, you are always in opposite to one another, depending on how the first particle is observed. And this is not confined to your birth gender or even your role (masculine or feminine) in the relationship. It is rather, dependent on a certain event or situation. In other words, let's say your man is actively talking and sharing his experience today, you become his opposite by being the listener. Or if you are exhausted and just want to chill and do nothing at home today, your man becomes the one who cooks, serves and maybe some dish-washing. The importance of the opposite? To generate a harmonious loving relationship. If both of you just want to talk, it will only lead to one feeling unheard. If your man accuses you for not doing housework because you are exhausted, it will only lead to disagreement and fights. The essence of love is as such. It takes two person together to adjust to the polarity under various circumstances.

On that note, you don't always need to have the same perspective of reality to create a harmonious relationship. Just as the entangled particles that hold opposite information/views, they are still at peace with each other. This is the beauty of true love. It won't hurt even though both of you hold different opinions of a certain incident, or loving an opposite soccer team, or embracing an opposite view on politics. As long as you learn how to maintain the harmony of listener/talker, having diverging views might in fact enrich your knowledge pool.

The essence of love travels beyond the speed of light. Quantum entanglement theory discovers that the two entangled particles might have shared informations that can communicate at a speed faster than what we can detect. This is a magnificent discovery if we look into string theory and law of attraction as well. It is believed that in string theory, everything has a unique vibration signature. In law of attraction, what we vibrate, we attract. In quantum theory, this attraction travels in a mysterious way that no scientists can accurately understand how it operates. Love relies on a connection that is mysterious yet, works on attracting a certain vibe. Vibes that do not sync well do not end well. I have an experience of meeting a high school friend whom we did not see each other for 15 years. During my teenage years, I have always been pessimistically poetic. My friend was also the type of person that you can feel immediately, her pessimistic vibration, when you are around her. Over the years, my vibes has been much more positive and constructive. She hasn't change at all. On our date night she seemed to have connected to my past pessimistic self. At the end of the night she told me she was attracted to me throughout the years. But I realised I have moved on and did not sync with her energy. You can only connect to the vibes that you are in sync with. So next time when you ask yourself why you are attracted to certain heartless guy, look into your vibes.

If we can learn from quantum love, we discover how the law of the Universe has always been teaching us about how to understand love and relationship.